"The advice she gave me was so soothing and so beautiful...she said you really have to trust yourself and you have to remember that you know your children better than anyone else. And so you have to believe in what you decide to do. ...you need to do whatever you think is best and not be worried about what other people tell you they think you should do. That was a problem. She knew I was trying to raise a child within an alcoholic marriage and at times I was really insecure about that.